Many of you know I lost my father 5 years ago to cancer. For those who have lost someone close, you know it’s a life-changing experience. You can read more about my father’s story here.
For Father’s Day, I’m sharing some of what I have learned since my father’s death, some personal and some about my passion – plant-based living.
#1: Just how much happens in 5 years:
My niece was born, I got separated from my husband of 5 years, I became a raw coach and chef, my brother graduated and secured a great job (after years and years of wandering), my son was born, learned how to talk and became his own little person, I sold a house, bought a house, my brother had a near-death car accident, and so much more.
#2: There is no limit to just how much you can miss a person – my goodness! And it never “gets better” like some people told me, you just accept it.
In many ways I miss my dad more now, and with every new thing that happens, than I did right when he died.
#3: What to say to all the people who say to me, “I’d rather have fun and only live to 65 years old.”
Back to my first point – how much difference five years can make and how much can happen – how about 10 extra years or 20?
How much would my dad have done to meet his grandson?
(Also – plant-based eating can be so delicious and fun – my aim is to show people how truly enjoyable and deprivation-free plant-based eating can be).
#4: Just how much value a plant-based diet or a diet high in plant-food has.
In 5 years, there have been an increasing amount of studies showing how diet is simply one of the best defenders against cancer.
Why cancer? Well, as Dr. Mark Hyman says, cancer is the biggest threat to humans. Unlike heart disease, it cannot be prevented as simply.
In fact, it is appearing that one of the soundest ways to prevent cancer is to adopt a diet high in vegetables, plus exercise.
#5: My mother taught me how to really treat a person that you love when they are dying.
Leading up to my grandmother’s death last year, my mother showed limitless compassion, love and caring towards her in her mother in her dying days, even when she entirely spent.
While I was extremely close to my father, his death proved to be one of the hardest times in our relationship. My best wasn’t good enough.
#6: That it’s really never too late to have a happy childhood. I heard this wonderful snippet from Dr. Wayne Dyer.
Seeing my father pass away so quickly and living in his absence has brought sheer simplicity to our relationship.
Looking back – the love he had for me radiates so clearly, in every situation – his triumphs, his mistakes, his humor, his fears and more. And, as Marianne Williamson said, “my relationship with my father has only improved since his death”.
I know he loved me very, very much. That is enough.
I love you and miss you dad. Happy Father’s Day.
Has anyone else lost a parent? Do you wish to tell us about him or her below?
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